Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate love, appreciation, and togetherness – whether you’re a mum yourself, spending time with family, or honouring a loved one.
But for those with a stoma, the day may come with a few extra considerations when it comes to planning meals, managing energy levels, and feeling confident while celebrating.
This Mother’s Day, we’re here to remind you that having a stoma doesn’t have to hold you back from enjoying special moments with loved ones.
Whether you’re heading out for a meal, celebrating at home, or just taking the day for some well-deserved self-care, here are some tips to help you feel comfortable, confident, and stress-free.
Enjoying a meal out with confidence
For many, Mother’s Day celebrations involve food, whether that’s a restaurant meal, a Sunday roast, or afternoon tea.
If you’re heading out for a meal, a little preparation can go a long way in making sure you feel at ease…
- Check the menu ahead of time – If certain foods trigger bloating or discomfort, take a quick look at the menu before heading out so you know what works for you.
- Eat at your own pace – There’s no rush! Take your time and listen to your body.
- Pack a small emergency kit – Just in case, keep a discreet bag with a spare pouch, wipes, and anything else you might need so you can relax and enjoy the day worry-free.
- Wear what makes you feel great – If you’re feeling self-conscious about your stoma bag, opt for loose or high-waisted outfits that make you feel comfortable and confident.
Celebrating at home – stress-free and comfortable
If you’re celebrating from the comfort of your home, it can be a wonderful chance to relax and enjoy quality time with family without the pressures of being out and about.
- Get involved in the fun – Whether it’s baking with the kids, opening presents in bed, or putting your feet up with a cuppa, enjoy the little things that make Mother’s Day special.
- Make self-care a priority – This is a day to celebrate you, so why not take some well-deserved time for relaxation? A warm bath, a short nap, or even some quiet time with a book can make the day even more special.
- Enjoy a meal that works for you – If a big meal feels too much, opt for something light and stoma-friendly that still feels like a treat.
- Ask for help if you need it – Whether it’s helping with the kids, cooking, or setting up decorations, don’t be afraid to let your loved ones take care of you for a change!
Making memories and feeling your best
Mother’s Day is all about creating beautiful moments with loved ones, and your stoma should never get in the way of that.
- Capture the day with confidence – Whether you’re posing for family photos or snapping candid moments, don’t let your stoma stop you from being part of the memories. Your loved ones love you exactly as you are.
- Prioritise comfort and confidence – Wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable, and if bloating or stoma noise happens? Just embrace the moment and laugh it off!
- Cherish the little things – Sometimes, the best moments aren’t the big plans but the little gestures of love – handmade cards, heartfelt messages, and simply being surrounded by the people who love you.
Reminder for those missing loved ones this Mother’s Day
For some, Mother’s Day can be a difficult time, whether due to loss, distance, or personal struggles. If you’re finding the day tough:
- Give yourself permission to feel – However you feel is completely valid!
- Do what’s best for you – Whether that’s celebrating, reflecting, or having a quiet day, put your needs first.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help and support – Connect with loved ones or reach out to a support group if you need someone to talk to.
Mother’s Day is all about love, appreciation, and connection, and having a stoma doesn’t change that. Whether you’re celebrating big or small, take the day to embrace the joy, relax, and make memories that truly matter.
Additionally, if you’re a mother of a child with a stoma, then you know that can also come with its fair share of challenges. If you’d like to hear from Kate, an Oakmed ambassador, she has shared with us what Mother’s Day means to her, the reality of being a stoma mum, and her advice for other parents navigating similar paths.
