As the days get shorter and the weather turns colder, many of us notice a shift in our mood and motivation. For Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, Oakmed Ambassador Ed opens up about how the darker months affect him, how he manages his mental health, and why it’s so important for men to speak up and support one another.
Do you notice a change in your mental health when winter arrives?
Definitely! I really miss the long days and warm nights of summer, the sunshine makes such a difference. When it gets darker earlier, I do feel it in my mood. But weirdly, my motivation for the gym actually improves! I find myself going more often and training harder through winter.
Why do you think it’s important to talk about men’s mental health?
I think it’s huge, but it can still be really hard for men to open up. I’ve been told before that things “shouldn’t affect me as much as they do,” and I think a lot of men feel that pressure – that we’re just expected to deal with things on our own. But we shouldn’t. Talking helps!
Does winter affect your stoma in any way?
Not too much, but sometimes food can be a bit trickier, heavier winter meals can affect output or cause leaks. I’m getting better at managing it though, and knowing what to avoid.
What are some signs you look out for when your mental health dips?
Confidence is a big one for me. I feel more confident in summer clothes, so when I’m wrapped up in winter gear I just don’t feel as good. I also find being indoors more can make me restless, so I try to get out whenever I can, even just for a short walk on a dry, cold day.
What helps you most during the winter months?
The everyday things really help. Watching my favourite show, cooking something warm and comforting, or hitting the gym – that’s a big one for me. Training clears my head, keeps me focused on my goals and helps me stay positive.
Do you find connection with others important for your mental health?
100%! Speaking to friends or family makes a huge difference. Even just checking in with someone for a quick chat helps. It’s easy to think you’re alone in how you feel, but most of the time, someone else gets it too.
What message would you share with other men struggling this winter?
To the guys who’ve been told to “man up” – ignore it. Turn it around and speak up. There’s absolutely no shame in struggling. The people around you love you and want to help. Be part of the change and show that strength is in honesty, not silence.
Finally, any advice for people worried about the winter ahead?
Take it slow. Set boundaries for yourself and don’t feel pressured to say yes to everything. Socialising can be tiring, so do what feels right for you. Remember, summer’s not that far away! Try to enjoy what winter brings too: get outside, visit family and friends, and make the most of the festivities.
Thank you to Ed for sharing such an open and honest insight into how he manages his mental health through the winter months. Remember, you’re never alone, and talking about how you feel can make all the difference.
